Errol Milner Clifford 2006-2009

Errol Milner Clifford was born with a significant heart defect and a cognitive disability that prevented him from walking or talking. As we grieved the child we had anticipated, Errol’s full-bodied smile and irrepressible laugh turned our sorrow into joy, and taught us that many of the best things in life are unexpected. Inspired by Errol’s delightful spirit, friends, family, and neighbors rallied to support our family’s significant emotional, physical, and financial needs, through countless acts of selfless generosity. When Errol’s courageous heart finally failed him on December 23, 2009 we were left numb with grief. In these dark hours we listen hopefully for the echoes of Errol’s brilliant laugh. This blog is the story (starting from present and working back to Errol's birth) of the life and times of the amazing Errol Clifford.


Saturday, September 22, 2007

Flow



I sat down to read a book with Errol the other day. Errol is a full body reader. His reads with his whole body. I’ve never seen anyone happier to read (or, really, happier to do anything). Errol’s body shivers with excitement and he starts to flail his little arms when I get out a book (he especially loves Middlemarch)! There is no confusion about whether Errol is happy or not.

But why is he so happy?

Is it just chemical?
Does our knowledge of time (which he doesn’t share) make us unhappy (always counting down….)?
Is he happy because he doesn’t know he will die?
Is it because he only knows the moment?
If we are very lucky, sometimes, ever so rarely, we enter into an action that is so fulfilling, so engrossing that we lose ourselves, lose track of time. This is called many names by many people. I’ll call it flow. Sometimes it is the sublime that takes me into flow (Chopin’s Etudes, a mountain walk), other times it is the most quotidian of things (washing the dishes, cutting garlic), and I am gone. It is as if I have stepped outside of myself and of time and into the river of eternity for just a moment, and then I am returned to myself and the oppression of time. Errol lives, mostly, in that flow. We envy him for it and are grateful to him for bringing us along to that sacred moment.

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