Errol Milner Clifford 2006-2009

Errol Milner Clifford was born with a significant heart defect and a cognitive disability that prevented him from walking or talking. As we grieved the child we had anticipated, Errol’s full-bodied smile and irrepressible laugh turned our sorrow into joy, and taught us that many of the best things in life are unexpected. Inspired by Errol’s delightful spirit, friends, family, and neighbors rallied to support our family’s significant emotional, physical, and financial needs, through countless acts of selfless generosity. When Errol’s courageous heart finally failed him on December 23, 2009 we were left numb with grief. In these dark hours we listen hopefully for the echoes of Errol’s brilliant laugh. This blog is the story (starting from present and working back to Errol's birth) of the life and times of the amazing Errol Clifford.


Sunday, May 10, 2009

Mother's Day









Today is a special day to celebrate family and love.

Of all the people Errol loves, there is one most dear to his heart: Madeline Albright. (Happy Mothers’ Day, Madame Secretary!) Wait a sec!

Of all the people Errol loves, there is one who truly is most dear to his heart: Mama.

Want to know why?

No Mama. No Errol.           

And there’s more…

Day and night, dawn and dusk, 9:47 a.m. and 3:22 p.m. on the dot, winter solstice and vernal equinox, ebb tide and flow tide, Peaches and Herb; Mama is everything for Errol…

Mama is sweet and kind.

Mama is fun.

Mama cooks all his food (before).

Mama changes his diapers (after).

Mama brushes Errol’s teeth (during).¿During?

Mama has high expectations of Errol.

Mama is patient.

Mama tickles Errol and laughs with him.

Mama cleans up the urine because she forgot to put his diaper on first.

Mama sacrifices.

Mama moves the runner to third.

Mama bathes Errol.

Mama takes Errol to the doctor.

Mama bathes the doctor.

The doctor bathes Mama.

The doctor’s wife gets jealous and does yoga.

It doesn’t work.

Errol bathes the doctor’s wife.

Mama worries about Errol.

Mama is gentle.

Mama stays in the hospital with Errol…for six weeks…twice.

Mama knows what questions to ask.

Mama asks them…and asks them again.

Mama keeps Errol alive.

Mama is relentless in getting Errol the things he needs.

Mama works her ass off to pay for Errol’s medical bills.

Mama is proud of Errol.

Mama knows everything about Errol.

Mama notices all of Errol’s improvements.

Mama celebrates all of Errol’s little victories.

Mama reads to Errol.

Mama builds a block tower for Errol, Errol knocks it down, she builds it back, he knocks it down, she builds it back, he knocks it down. Errol loves it. He wants more. Mama builds it back, he knocks it down…

Mama stays up late for Errol, she gets up early for Errol, she does both together.

Mama is a beast.

Mama is fun.

Mama loves Errol.

Errol loves Mama.

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

i know a lot of mamas...a lot of good mamas, but in my book there's no better mama than CARY!
Julia Toone